Why do men feel like they need to get certain things out of their system? Do they? If they don’t will it ruin their marriage after a few years? Can they settle for the perfect woman once they meet her?
Last week I had a conversation with someone. After a few drinks, we started to talk about relationships. But he is currently with the woman of his dreams and he didn’t want to let her go. However, he was hesitant on popping the big question to her because when being around other women, he at times felt ‘temptation’. His dilemma was that he needed to get ‘certain things’ out of his system before marrying this woman (which he says is the perfect one).
So I sat there at the bar politely listening to him and trying to understand what this temptation was and what these ‘certain things’ were that he needed to get out of his system. While also thinking to myself “Wow I really love Flavio. I have a keeper at home.”
In my personal experience, I have never felt temptation for any other man since the day I met Flavio. And I believe he hasn’t felt temptation for other women either. I think it is okay to see someone else and admit he/she is attractive or what not. Like C’mon look at Ryan Gosling. But to feel tempted to do something stupid knowing you have the best person right next to you or at home? Then in my opinion, you are not in love.
If you have to doubt and think twice about being with someone, it isn’t love. Don’t do it. Don’t ask her to marry you. It may be love later down the line, at another stage of life, but not now. I never hesitated to want to marry Flavio and I still don’t hesitate now after living together, picking up after him and arguing on who left a dirty dish in the sink and now we have ants are everywhere. I love him and wouldn’t change his ways.
See?.. the thing is that people mature, settle down and value different things at different stages of life. And it is okay. There is no timeline to these moments. Flavio and I value each other and settled down at the same time. Why? Because we knew what we found when we met.. We appreciate what we have gone through and wouldn’t do it any other way.
So my question to many men AND women out there. If you’d like to be anonymous that’s fine. But tell me, have you ever had the feeling of temptation while in a relationship and why?
To those who have never had this feeling, give me your thoughts as well. Because in my opinion, if you have temptations, then you are not truly in love. Am I right?