It wasn’t Houston. It was me

Sometimes all you need is drinks and some girl talk.

Being new to a city can be hard at times. Making friends after college is not as easy as it used to be. The first friends I made when moving to Houston, happened to be two guys. And that’s fine because I am used to hanging out with guys and drinking beer. But recently I made new friends: a great group of girls. Anyone who knows me knows that I hate having too many girl friends. Sometimes it is overwhelming for me. But quite honestly, even the most tomboy needs drinks with the girls once in a while.

Ever since brunch a couple of months ago, I have realized it wasn’t Houston, it was me.

When I moved to Houston, I hated everything about it. I hated the holes and cracks on the streets, the breakfast tacos, the hot sun that melted my lipstick in the car and the lack of blue water beaches. But I have realized now that I didn’t hate Houston. I hated the feeling of being alone in a new city. It wasn’t the city at all. I just blamed the city for my lack of social skills. I thought I hated Houston because I had no friends to have fun with, no one to celebrate our birthdays with and no one to just call and invite over to just have some drinks.

But who’s fault was it? It was all mine, I didn’t care about meeting new people. I thought everything about the city sucked. So I didn’t try. But life has a way of working itself out. I met a group of people by accident a few months ago. I couldn’t be more thankful. From one person to the next I have met more and more great people. And the truth of the matter is that when you are in a new city you need people to talk to! Lucky for me I have Flavio and he has been my crying shoulder. But he can only hear me talk for so long. Sometimes I feel bad from how much I talk to him. Having other people to talk to, always helps!

Houston is a great city. It is full of opportunities, great parks, awesome restaurants in every corner, those country bars that I have started to get obsessed with and a whole lot of people to meet!

At the end of the day, it isn’t about where you live but about who you are with wherever you are. It’s about who you share your experiences with. Houston is a melting pot. A lot of people move here for jobs, which is why we moved here for. Most of the friends we have met are from all over the U.S and some even from outside the U.S. So that already gives us something in common. We were all a whole bunch of loners in a new city at some point!

Someone told me that if Houston could talk, it would say: “It doesn’t matter where you came from, as long as you are here.”

And that seemed pretty on point to me. It wasn’t Houston. It was me.


Flashes of clarity

  • I love this! I just moved away from Houston where I was born and raised, and I moved to a smaller town. So my transition has been different but the same feeling. I don’t hate the new town, just hate that I don’t have any friends here, the only people I have around are my mom- and my grandma. That is why I decided to start my own blog.Hopefully I can come around to the idea of people and socializing. 🙂

    • Vianca, yes! that’s in part why I started blogging as well. I think home will always be home but it is important to give new places a chance.

      You will eventually open up. It took me a while, but I am so thankful I ended opening up! Good luck! Let me know how it goes for you! 🙂

  • lizzy

    Love this! Moving to a new city can be so hard, glad you are coming around, I love Houston!!! There is a lot to do here you just have to search for it, we should do a blogger meetup sometime!

    • Ari

      Yea I have opened up and seen many places to go to here. I can eat at a different place everyday and never run out of places to eat in! hehe. Yes! If you have a group of bloggers you know I’ll love to participate in a meet up! <3

  • Glad to see you’re fitting in! I also just moved to a big city and its a huge transition. And as someone who has always had mostly guy friends (my coworkers at my old job were all guys my age), you’re definitely right about needing some time to spend with girls.
    Randi with an i

    • Thanks. It took a while! And yes, girl time is much needed sometimes hehe. We understand each other a bit better at times.

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